Slowing Down for the Holidays?

Slowing down? For the holidays?!!!

A ridiculous notion, right?

I caught myself having a very serious conversation with myself in the grocery store recently.

Out. Loud.

My mind was running through my to-do list and I remembered something I hadn’t previously remembered (say that 5 times fast), and out loud I was all, “OH CRAP. I NEED TO *insert list of forgotten important things*.”

Oh are you nodding?


We are well into the first week of December. I had resolved that I would take this month by the reigns and enjoy this season with my family. Make decent meals. Try to make the evenings a bit more cozy, sweet, and snuggly for my little ones that are less little than they have ever been. At minimum, just slow down a bit and take the tasking down a notch. Maybe talk to myself out-loud in public a little bit less…

Aaaaaaaand…. I suck.

It’s not that I don’t want to.

Are my expectations too high?

Or am I in too deep?

My body is tired. My brain is tired. My kids are tired. The husband is tired… even some of my friends are tired.

I don’t think the holidays should be much different than the regular days. We should always focus on loving and giving. But the holiday season seems to highlight the gaps. Or shorcomings, perhaps.

There are added activities, opportunities to gather, and tasks. Entering the holidays when you are already on empty does not a successful holiday make. It is sure hard to rise to the extras aaaaaaand keep a warm, calm home.

It’s laughable, really.

I share all this not because I am busier than anyone else. I wholeheartedly believe that we all manage to fill our time regardless of how many kids we have or our job or schooling choice or… WHATEVER. We fill our time without room for error. I share this because I know that I know that I know that I KNOW I am not the only one wrestling with this.

So. As a reminder for me… as a reminder for you… shall we try to enter thoughtfully into the next several weeks? Some questions to consider…

  • What is important? Like, really. For REALS important.
  • What is fluff?
  • Where can we give… and give together as a family? Omitting the fluff can create time for this.
  • Have I/we stopped to LOOK at our children. Like really look?…

With all the choices we have this season, I want to remember to stop collaborate and listen… to watch my kids. To see the heart of people… To find a way to bless others… I HATE IT when I get so busy that I feel I don’t have time to help others.

I want to hold my husband’s hand, and sit on the couch to watch a silly holiday movie with my kids. WITHOUT a tech device on my lap or in my hand. I want to not be so busy I fail to appreciate each big and little blessing that sprinkles and floods my life.

I mean look at these people:

Merry family via @jennyonthespot

These people need me first. I need to show them that I consider them a blessing and not a task.

When you think of this season, what weighs on you? Do you feel like there is too much? Do you need to take a moment to… fall back and regroup too? Have you decided how you will bless others this season? I’d love to hear what you are doing…


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6 Responses to “Slowing Down for the Holidays?”

  1. Michelle says:

    Oh yes. Yes and double yes. And wasn’t that ME talking out loud at the grocery store??
    Add two of my kids’ birthdays and my Dad and brother-in-law and friend’s birthday, in December and I am a raving nutball.
    Breathing helps.
    I do like to use hot glue quite a bit.
    It seems to have a calming effect.
    Maybe we’ll make salt dough together.

    I hear you sister.
    Happy Holidaze!

  2. Amiyrah says:

    Yes. This is me. Although, I have to admit that I haven’t been stressing like I usually do every December and have been trying to let things flow and be in the blessing.

    I’m pretty sure it’s because exactly 1 year ago today, I was on a plane to Afghanistan. Thinking about all the things I was going to miss while I was gone, and trying not to cry over the fact that I wouldn’t see my kids in their pajamas, opening presents on Christmas Day. This year I had no choice but to be grateful.

  3. Chantelle says:

    To answer your question about fluff, I believe it’s about 99% high fructose corn syrup. And your ‘stop, collaborate and listen’ about made me spew my coffee in laughter! (Love your gift of humor Jenny!!) In all seriousness – beautiful post, beautiful family portrait. Merry Christmas to one of my favorite joy sprinklers! 🙂

  4. Lu says:

    Oh, my friend…are we the same person sometimes? As much as I desire to slow down, there seems to be so much to do. Good heavens. This holiday season, I am spending time with my children and paying them attention. And, giving myself a little time, too. Like you said, you know who needs you first. Everything else can wait, up to a point. I don’t want to miss my kids growing up. Nor do I want to be 50 and wonder what in the hell did I do the past decade. With my 41st birthday only a few weeks away, I am acutely aware that time is going by so fast. Goodness.

  5. Tanna says:

    I have been in this same place my friend. One little. Any step that has helped my heat and mind at least face the right direction is the advent ap from John Piper of Solid Joys ministry. “Good News of Great Joy.”. I know that I know that I KNOW that I need my heart to be aligned to the principles of my Lord. Love you friend. Xoxo

  6. Vanesa K says:

    I am encouraging anyone in my family that asks to get my children games this year. As in board games. (Heard of them? No batteries or controls required.) Haha! That way my husband get to sit down and laugh and really enjoy our kids…ages 7, 6, 4 & 2! Sometimes we even add hot cocoa to the time of play. Beware…when chosing to mix liquids with solids…you can NOT get upset when this hot cocoa gets spilled all over just opened game of Candy Land.

    I also just thought of a speaker that I heard this past summer. He encouraged us to wake up early and meet with God. He said that way you are heading out for your day ‘full’ instead of half empty. You have way less to give to people when you, yourself are not full. Just a thought. I am trying to get myself out of bed at 5am to do my devotions, read the Bible, write, watch an encouraging video…whatever I feel led to do. Wanna join me? =)

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